Shanda Now Lives eLOVEated!
Shanda's Experience
You might think that learning to love yourself is some froofy nebulous thing that may or may not improve your life. That was kind of what I thought. But I was desperate for positive change, and Theresa herself embodies what I wanted. So I signed up. And wow!!! My results have blown my mind. Since starting Theresa's program, my life has leveled up in every way. I have started a new job that is more aligned with my values. My relationship with my partner has deepened as we've dealt with problems that we've never been able to address before. I've lost 20 pounds, and my health has improved dramatically. I like the way I dress now and frequently receive compliments. I feel happier and more confident in the way I show up in the world. Theresa's program consists of easy weekly assignments, but make no mistake regarding the power of each new lesson. Theresa has guided me every step of the way, providing wisdom & enlightenment when it all seemed confusing to me. And we're only halfway done.
To the outside observer, you are put-together, driven, and damn good at what you do, whether that's running a business or running a household. You're the woman people rely on to get shit done; you're the one they turn to in crisis. You are also the one they unintentionally take for granted. They know that if they ask something of you, you'll say "yes" even if it means rearranging your schedule while bending over backwards, making dinner, and helping your kids with homework.
Here's the crux.
Inside, you don't feel like that confident, put-together woman at all (which is why you say, "yes" to everything). Instead...
- You second-guess everything.
- You replay conversations in your head.
- You pick apart your body in the mirror.
- You beat yourself up for proscrastinating.
- You worry way too much about what other people think.
- You shy away from praise and attention because you don't feel worthy of it.
- You cringe internally when you walk into a crowded room.
And you’re exhausted.
- You are exhausted of constantly fighting that voice in your head that tells you that you are not enough.
- You are exhausted from people-pleasing to ensure you are accepted and loved by everyone around you.
- You are sick and tired of constantly hating your body.
- You are tired of going along with things you don't want or believe in simply to keep the peace.
- You are exhausted by the insecurities that pop up every time you walk into a room.
You are exhausted from performing confidence instead of feeling it.
Feeling confident is a choice.
You can choose to believe the limiting beliefs you were taught as a child or choose to believe the truth of your greatness. You can choose to believe you are unlovable because you are imperfect or you can choose to love yourself unconditionally. You can choose to respect your wants, needs, ideas, and beliefs or you can choose to repress them and feel unseen. You can choose to give to the point of exhaustion, or you can choose to set boundaries and thrive as a woman, wife, mother, and professional.
We are surrounded by messaging that we are not enough, so no wonder that mantra is so loud in our heads! From television to movies, social media to the news, we receive constant messaging that we should do everything for everyone and do it with a smile. While we are at it, we need to stay thin, remain young, crave sex, be positive, and for God’s sake DON’T COMPLAIN!
Choosing to believe that messaging is killing us.
Taking Care of Yourself isn't an Indulgence; It's a responsibility - Your responsibility.
Let’s be honest. If your confidence doesn’t improve, your body image, relationships, children, and business will all continue to suffer.
Body Image
- You'll never lose weight because you won't dedicate the time and energy towards yourself to make it happen.
- You'll never appreciate what you see in the mirror no matter your size.
- You'll miss out on beautiful memories and experiences because you'll avoid anything that shows any skin, such as beaches, pool parties, and even sex. And if you do participate, you'll be so focused on your insecurities, you won't be able to immerse yourself in the moment.
Relationships
- You'll stay in relationships that keep you unhappy and unfulfilled.
- You'll build resentment because you won't speak up as an equal in the relationship.
- You'll continue to give without receiving.
- You'll feel unappreciated as you over-perform to people please.
- You'll burn out from over-giving.
- You'll isolate when you spiral and push people away.
Children
- Your kids will observe their mother continually rejecting herself and grow up thinking that's normal.
- Your kids will struggle with low confidence because your people-pleasing will cause you to do too much for them, rather than letting them do for themselves.
- Your kids will watch your unforgiving reaction to failure and adopt that same reaction.
Business
- Your business will suffer because you'll avoid the tough stuff.
- You'll overdeliver and undercharge.
- You won’t go after the big opportunities.
- You'll shrink when you walk into a room, rather than stand confidently in your skill and knowledge.
- You won't ask for the sale.
Low confidence affects everything:
your money, your marriage, your parenting, your creativity, your leadership.
Confidence is not cosmetic.
It is foundational.
Are You Fed Up Enough Yet?
Let's be real, you've been living like this for a long time. Are you sick of it enough to finally make the change? That's the question of the hour. Because if it doesn't hurt enough, you won't do the work. Timing is everything.
But, if you are finally at that stage of your life where you have raised your kids and you have done the thing and are finally ready to focus on you, then what are you waiting for?
Seriously - what are you waiting for?
Based on my typical clientele, you are probably anywhere from your 40s to your 60s. How much more of your life are you going to waste feeling not enough? When exactly are you going to allow yourself to fully enjoy this life? When are you going to allow yourself to feel good in your body? When are you going to live with vitality and freedom rather than exhaustion and resignation? I hate to break it to you, but you are over halfway through your life - do you really want to spend it feeling self-doubt rather than confident?
If you aren't ready, I respect that. But I also want to challenge you to figure out why. Sometime today or tomorrow, answer the question, "Why am I afraid of feeling confident?" If your initial reaction to that question is, "I ain't scared!" then ask yourself what's stopping you from joining the program. Taking the time to make a good decision is one thing, stagnating out of fear is another. Let's make sure you are doing the first and not the second.
Either way, when you are ready, I'll be here.
I will always be here.
Sick of Self-Doubt?
Want to permanently evict that demoralizing voice in your head? Or stop giving a F%*& what other people think? Want to feel unshakable in any situation? Then join me June 8th for a transformative workshop where I will teach you how to shut down that voice and start living confidently or your money back. Guaranteed.